Who would you trust, someone who studied painting for thirty years, or someone who had painted for thirty years? Someone who had studied digging ditches, or someone who had dug ditches? Someone who studied alcoholism for thirty years, or someone who had been an alcoholic for thirty years? Someone who had studied recovery, or someone who had recovered? There are people out there, who believe something because they have studied it, then there are people, who believe something because they know it. While belief is good, there are levels of belief. The belief gained through experience will always trump the belief gained through education. You can trust the belief gained by education. You can have faith in the belief gained by experience. Which is stronger trust or faith?
If you have lived with a dis-empowering belief for thirty years, you can have faith, that you know for fact, it's dis-empowering. As opposed to the person that has studied a dis-empowering belief for thirty years, he may trust he knows, but he doesn't have faith he knows. The arrogance of people with education, and a lot of letters following their names, never ceases to astound me. The EGO of these people is only surpassed, by how wrong they have been, about so many things. We will laugh when we look back fifty years from now, about what some of the experts believed was true. History has shown us this over and over. Yet these experts, never stop pontificating, about something they trust to be true, simply because they have studied the problem, only to be proven wrong, by someone who has lived the problem.
When I hear or read about an expert telling the world, that ALCOHOLISM is an incurable disease, I always wonder, how does he know. You can study it forever, but until you've lived it, you can't really know. I've lived it for thirty years, and have seen hundreds of people, including myself, who have recovered from a seemingly hopeless case of mind over body. Is this expert going to tell me, I can't trust my own experience or what I've seen with my own eyes. What is the motivation behind telling people there is no cure?
I'm here to tell everyone, that ALCOHOLISM can be cured, and a lot more people would be cured, if the experts started focusing on the root cause instead of giving simplistic answers to complicated problems. Nobody likes to admit they are a Narcissist. and that's the problem. It's a disease that by it's very nature, manipulates and deflects, peoples attention away from the real problem. It's like there mantra is, call me anything else, but don't call me a Narcissist.
Well, the jig is up, the cat is out of the bag. Anybody who has read, the symptoms and behaviors, of NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER, only has to attend say 90 in 90, to be thoroughly convinced that this MENTAL ILLNESS is behind all types of addictions, especially ALCOHOLISM. NPD is the "bondage of self", that is making so many people so unhappy, that they will reach for the first thing, that will give them some relief. Unfortunately in our society, that first thing, most easy to obtain, is alcohol.
It's my opinion that this "obsession of the mind", is NPD and the sooner people start realizing this the sooner we will see dramatic improvements in the recovery rates. As I've stated before it's only because of the psychic change I experienced in STEP 11, that I've gotten the confidence to show my own vulnerability and start speaking up. I encourage anyone reading this to start looking at NPD with a critical eye. Our beliefs, create our thinking, which creates our lives. Understanding how dis-empowering beliefs are put into our minds, and how our minds go to work making them true, is crucial to attaining recovery.